Originally appeared in Planet Jackson Hole

How to recognize when a child is recalling a past life memory.

How might you react if one day your three-year-old (or grandchild) says to you in all seriousness, "You were my mother before, when I was a baseball player," or "We wore metal cleats then, but no helmets and no lights at night."

Might you recognize the child's effort to bring to light something important about a past life memory? Would you be willing to support the child in continuing to share, without either poo-pooing them or leading them on?

A new book: A true experience

This really happened to Cathy Byrd who has written a new best seller about her son, The Boy Who Knew Too Much. Boyd and her husband were religious, non-believers in reincarnation, who were not even baseball fans. This true story is equally about Byrd's journey becoming a conscious parent and opening her mind to reincarnation, as well as her son's incredibly accurate past life recall.

Even before their son could talk, he was already obsessed with baseball. When he was two, he would always carry a baseball bat around with him, and taught himself to competently throw and hit a baseball. The child was a lefty, and at three he was so good, he was invited to throw out the first pitch for the Dodgers. He was playing baseball three to six hours a day, and told his mother, "I was a tall baseball player."

Not yet able to grasp all this, Byrd immediately reframed the comment and told him that someday he will be tall, and maybe also a baseball player.

"No, I was tall like Daddy," the boy replied.

That same year, the boy saw a poster of Babe Ruth, and turned to his mother and said, "I don't like him; he was mean to me."

Byrd began researching details of the Babe Ruth era and located a photo of that Yankee baseball team. Following her counselor's advice, she showed it to her son saying only, "Is there anyone in this photo who didn't like Babe Ruth?"

Immediately the boy pointed to Lou Gehrig, a tall man with dimples, and said, "That's me."

I leave you to read the book and learn so much more of Byrd's spiritual awakening, what happened when her son saw a photo of Gehrig's family, what he answered when he was asked how he died, and what happens when he meets Gehrig's actual family.

How it's possible

Science takes some of the mystery out of why/how it happens frequently that children between the ages of two to five recall past life memories. From birth to about five years old, children will spend most of their time in theta brain wave cycles, which are the same brain wave states as deep meditation, deep relaxation, or hypnosis.

Theta brain waves automatically connect to heightened intuition, access to other dimensions of reality, the records of the soul and creative inspiration. Note: Practiced adult meditators, very creative people and people under hypnosis also have access to theta states where they experience similar phenomena.

Conscious parent takeaway No. 1

Past life recall or not, a very important step to becoming a more conscious parent is knowing that in those first five years when children are in theta brain wave states, they do not yet have a rational, analytical mind to analyze or filter anything we communicate.

Without a filter, everything, especially what we say and imply about them, goes directly to their subconscious and registers there as the "truth" and remains buried in the subconscious, where those unquestioned positive and negative messages will continue to influence the child's perceptions of self, others and life.

Conscious parent takeaway No. 2

From now on, if/when your very young child/grandchild tells you startling things, you know the theta brain wave connection is what helps them to know uncanny things, including past life information. Hopefully this knowledge invites you to lean in, be curious and supportive.

The best approach is to ask the child non-leading questions so they can tell you more, and to let them answer without any commentary. Like author Cathy Byrd, you might also seek help from spiritual teachers, research published case studies, and consult with professionals familiar with past life memory in children.

Everyone benefits

As mindful, open-hearted and open-minded parents (and grandparents) we set the stage for our children's best lives, and we simultaneously evolve our own consciousness and well-being. PJH